I would absolutely not consider myself a minimalist, more like a wannabe. A dreamer if you will. Moved into my home last July 2017 and accumulated so much crap to try and fill the home. I started leaning more towards quantity rather quality. Jerry (my husband) even noticed. Poor guy. He was like “why the f is this cheap table in our room?”
I remember the moment I finally cracked, clear as day. I was trying to be a “DIYer” and stain one of Jerrys old end tables he refuses to throw out and it got all over our driveway. I was like why the fu$% am I trying to make this thing work. Tossed that and never thought of it again. Didn’t even need the damn thing. Then I was on a mission. I cleared the whole house of things that we’re not useful and taking up space. Clothing was TOUGH but once I conquered that I became a new woman. Swear I had less worries somehow.
Growing up, I wasn’t the wealthiest chick on the block and I worked my ass off buy the material things that I wanted. I acquired a mentality that the more you have, the happier you will be. This couldn’t be further from the truth. We don’t have late night heart to hearts with our sofa now do we? F*** the sofa, give me my best friend with a bottle of wine in her hand ready to cry laughing with me. That’s what makes my heart happy. Tossing (and donating) the material possessions that had no real value to me actually chilled me out. I have more room in my purses, bags, closets. I have less furniture and night stands to dust. I save time getting ready because I know where everything is. Do not get me wrong, I still have those wedges I bought in 2012 that I swear will see daylight at some point in time of my life. Chances are, nah.
I can’t sit here and tell you how to become a minimalist, but here is some advice if you’re on the road to recovery.
- I might need this someday. No you won’t. BUT, if that time comes and you do need it, will you pass away without it? Go to CVS and get another can of hairspray, Susan.
- One day they will fit. Don’t do that to yourself, toss the skinnies. Don’t do that to yourself.
- My grandmom gave it to me. Your grandmom wants the best for you. Toss the ugly Christmas sweater.
- Remember that none of these material things fill your heart the way your friends and family do. Not one of these things.