To All the Moms in Quarantine

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Whether you have 1 kid or 5, stay at home or work, I see you, I am you, I’m flailing as well. 

I had JJ in October and we were cooped up inside all winter while I tried to figure out how to be a mom, battle post partum anxiety, and deal with ground hogs day – every, single, day. 

I didn’t go back to my full time job but I have my own business going on where I can work from home and have a flexible schedule. Seriously blessed to be able to have this opportunity and watch my son grow but have you ever tried to WFH with an infant let alone a kid of any age? It’s impossible. So I decide to get a sitter at least 2-3 times a week while I would go to Starbucks and work. This was simply amazing. Just what I needed, I felt back to myself again. 

Then this shit happened. I think I got to enjoy ooh maybe 2 months of working outside of the home again (not even). Basically my maternity leave has been extended til further notice without any help from anyone, ever and nowhere to go except for a walk around the block – IF the weather permits which for the most part it has not. I feel that “is this my life now” feeling creeping back and it sucks. Now my husband is home working in what was once my office so it’s like a double kick because we are in each others spaces and he can’t even lend a hand because his show must go on. Most days I envy him having his own space and freedom to work. Though I love the flexibility of my job I am literally entertaining a 7 month old all day while trying to work a job that though flexible, requires a ton of communication and hard work. It’s an around the clock gig and I am trying to squeeze it into the 45 minutes naps I am getting. Legit bottle in one hand, laptop or phone in the other.

The word is draining. Some days I am fine, some days I wake up like “again?”. Many days I get to my breaking point. Then the mom guilt comes in. That’s the best. After trying to keep your shit together you lose it and you’re like damn I didn’t mean to do that. The hardest part is that there is no relief. No places to go, no people to help you out. It truly takes a village to raise children and right now us moms are working with a few lone soldiers who are freaking tired. I know we are all dealing with this in different way but I figured if anyone is on my page they might find some  solace in this piece. 

Today was rough. And it’s 3pm … Tomorrow could be better, it could very well not be. C’est la vie. 

The CBD Starter Kit.. a gift from the heavens above.

Late January 2020 YL made an announcement that almost brought me to tears. Dramatic, I know but it’s true. I literally couldn’t wait to call my husband because CBD had become such a huge part of our lives – we literally use it on my dog. You know that elephant on your chest or the feeling of chaos in your mind? Dreaded anxiety. CBD has become one of my many tools in managing my anxiety. In my research I have found that it is good for other things as well which is just an added bonus.

So let me tell you a bit about CBD. Not in the nuerotransmitters scientific kind of way (I’ll let you do that research on your own if you want) that is simply just not my strong suit nor how I talk. So here we go. CBD is found in marijuana and the hemp plant. It is responsible for balancing the systems in our bodies, one being your nervous system. You hear of so many people with autoimmune disorders turning to CBD due to the systems it affects.

CBD will not get you high, will not give you cotton mouth, will not increase your appetite. That is THC’s job and the THC is extracted from the hemp plant and removed, leaving only CBD. You feel calm without feeling high. It’s like a nice warm hug. My shoulders relax, my mind stops racing and the feeling of doom subsides.

Systems CBD affects//

🌱nervous
🌱gastrointestinal
🌱immune

Okay so the kit. It comes with a roller, a dropper bottle and muscle balm. We partnered with Nature’s Ultra – a company we trust and love – who provides the CBD and adds our most calming YL oils to them for extra effect. Just as we are with our oils, so we are with our CBD. Do your research. CBD is blowing up. You are seeing it all over, however, you get what you pay for and Lord only knows what is in the $10 dropper bottle you got from the random gas station on your way to the shore. Yikes.

The kit is $165 and will get you your YL membership (which means you can reorder or order anything you want from YL at wholesale – no monthly commitment whatsoever, relax). I know you will want to re-up on your dropper bottle so I highly recommend just grabbing the kit. If you are already a member, this is available to you for purchase right through your account!!! Ugh, that still makes me smile.

🌿 Roller: I uses this throughout the day⁣⁣⁣⁣- rolling on my neck and along my spine.
🌿 Balm: as needed on pain points ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣
🌿 Droppers: at night or even during the day if my anxiety is strangling me

New Mom, Who Dis

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We brought JJ home and it was like hysterical that someone left us in charge of a tiny human when we literally didn’t even know how to burp a child before this. However, we were ready to do whatever it took and were already so over the moon in love with this little babe. We had no clue what we were in for. Not a clue. Nobody can prepare you for parenthood. Even when they warn you about the ups and downs you’re like “yeah whatever I got this.”

Narrator: she, in fact, did not have this.

The first few weeks seem like cake because newborns are so lethargic so JJ was chill af. There wasn’t much fussing just sleep (for long stretches), eat and poop. I remember Jerry and I were thinking we nailed it already. This is great! Love this. We have an easy kid! The nighttime is a little rough, whatever, we can do this! Then by week three of no sleep and JJ starting to come to a bit (and fuss like nobody’s business, self-diagnosed colic by his mom) we were like okay we’re dead meat. Walking zombies. Somebody send him back! Totally kidding, but this definitely crossed my mind a time or two.

I think the first thing I had to come to terms with was that my life was totally and completely changed. I no longer mattered. That to do list I lived by never got done – at least in the time frame it used to. That morning cup of coffee was always room temp. Even your meals are up in the air. I couldn’t just run out real quick to do something, I had to now factor in baby J and his 400 lb car seat. The thought of leaving my house with him gave me anxiety because I didn’t know wtf I was doing and he was like a timebomb to me. Every cry I was like WOAH woah woahhhh. Loling, it’s so true. The nighttime legit scared us because Jerry and I slept like the dead and now we were up at all hours of the night trying to figure out why this tiny human was crying. I would actually look at people and be jealous that they were going to have a full nights sleep. I remember calling my mom crying like “Is this my life now? I’m just a slave to this baby boy?” It’s actually hard to remember now but I most definitely had a case of the baby blues.

Here I am now at 6 weeks and here to tell you that things get easier. I am figuring out JJ and he is figuring me out as well. Don’t get me wrong, it was instant love at first sight with him but that first smile really is something else. It’s like okay here we go, I’m doing something right (with tears streaming down my face). There is truly nothing like that first smile. Good Lord. The bond we have is like none other. I idolize him and he idolizes me back. Now I know what his cries mean, when he wants to lay and play and when he’s tired. We have a routine now and omg was I craving a routine. Like I said, we are getting to know each other more and more each day and it’s an incredible type of love I’ll never be able to explain. Me and Jerry just stare at him like “can you believe we made him?” There’s good days and bad days. Like right now I’m half awake because JJ’s room turned into a night club last night, but such is life.

Throughout this journey I think the most important thing that I have learned is that nobody knows what they are doing. Don’t compare yourself or your baby to others during this time – or any time for that matter. There is no right or wrong way to do this. I wanted nail this gig right off the bat. Like, good joke, nobody nails this and everyone cries – and now I get it. You are learning so much about yourself during this time, it’s insane. I am like 1000x more sensitive, more compassionate, and more aware. My anxiety spiked naturally. Mental breakdowns are necessary and so is self-care. Don’t forget about you. Go get your nails done or a massage and don’t feel guilty about it! It truly takes a village so if someone is offering to watch the baby, take the offer. Take it always.

Anyway, I’m not here to tell you how to act because, again, I have no idea what I am doing but I do know one thing and that is that this is the best job I have ever had in my whole entire life and I wouldn’t trade it for the world. It is absolutely trying and I’m sure every single stage has it’s challenges but the joy this little man brings me is so worth it. So, for the moms out there who are having themselves a day, I hear you, I see you and I am you. We gotta stick together in this crazy, wild journey because we all we got.

Using the PSK on Little People

So I have a 3 week old and I am over the moon. I’ve been oiling for quite some time now so I used oils throughout my pregnancy and I honestly don’t know how people do life without them. I had an easy pregnancy and an even easier delivery.

Here I am, a new mom, oiling my little mans up. So far it has been amazing. Each oil in the kit provides support for me and baby JJ. Let me tell ya how. Start by checking the dilution chart below. If I’m being honest, I barely dilute, I just make sure I use only 1 drop on the little homie.

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Diffuser: Add this to the babes room and get yourself one too! I have a diffuser in every room but I’m extra.

Peace + Calming: This is JJ’s favoriteeeee calming oil. He responds to this one the most. I’ll diffuse this at night in his room and after a nightime bath I apply to his forehead. During diaper changes I’ll apply some to the bottom of his feet.

Valor: Being a new mom is scary. Valor relieves my anxiety. I diffuse this at night and apply to neck and wrists during the day. I cannot live iwthout this oil. Sometime’s I will add this to JJ’s nighttime diffuser.

Frank: This is applied to both mine and JJ’s forehead for focus and centering. Sometimes we just need a reset – most especially when baby boy is crying and it takes me forever to figure out why. Oiy.

Panaway: After birth my back was off. I hear this is common. Panaway for all of the aches and pains.

Stress Away: I mean, need a say more? Mom, bring this in the shower with you – when you can actually take one – and drop away. Rub all over your neck. This scent is unreal so I will diffuse during the day to keep baby J (and myself) from freaking out.

Lavender: Seriously what is lavender not good for? For JJ, I’ll let him sniff this when he is all out of pocket. For me, the uses are endless but that is for another post.

Raven: Sniffles and coughs? Raven baby. Dilute and apply to chest and bridge of nose for the little one should they be snotty and agitated. This oil opens you right up. I always say it’s similar to vicks vapor rub in both smell and use.

Peppermint: I’ve had post partum hormonal headaches. I am not sure if it is my hormones or lack of sleep that I got going on here but pep on the temples is immediate relief. I don’t use this on baby love.

Citrus Fresh: For JJ’s hiccups! This dude sucks down his bottle in such an urgent manner he legit gets hiccups after every feeding that keep him from falling back asleep. Letting him sniff this helps the hiccups subside.

Thieves: Immunity! During the day I will open a window and diffuse this in JJ’s room – if the weather is nice enough for the window to be open – to get the germs out. Obviously nobody wants to try and be a mom when you have a friggin head cold so I use this on myself daily. Rub on your neck and wrists every single morning to stay above the wellness line. Diffuse with other oils for an amazinggggggg fall scent.

Lemon: I add this to my water during the day to curb my cravings. Trying to get my body back to where it was before pregnancy.

Digize: When JJ is constipated I will rub this on his back. Also, after birth mom usually has a terrible time going to the bathroom. I add this to my tea and rub on my stomach to get me moving along.

Ningxia Packets: I take one of these every single day. SO MANY BENEFITS, one including a natural boost of energy. What mom doesn’t need that, am I right?

Thieves Hand Sanitizer and Spray: This is in JJ’s diaper bag so where ever we go I can make sure unwanted germs stay the F away. I favor the spray because it is so quick and easy to use on yourself and all surfaces such as shopping carts and coffee shop tables.

Thieves Cleaning packet: I use this to clean my whole house. JJ could literally lick the table and I won’t have to worry about toxins and chemicals in his mouth that he would’ve gotten from the wood cleaner, windex or bleach.

 

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Oils//Afterbirth

 

Newborn

A little bit of an opened life 9 capsule sprinkled in her milk once a day

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13 month old

2 oz of Ningxia
1 life 9
1/2 tsp of Sulfurzyme powder

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Age 2-9
Multigreens: 2 a dayMightyVites: 2 a day
MightyZymes: 1 a day
Omegagize: 2 a day
Super C: 1/2 a tablet
Mineral Essence & Mindwise: I just puts some in their Ningxia in the morning.

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Age 3-4
mightyvites -2
Super C -1 or 2
Multi greens in smoothies
Life 9 in yogurt
Ningxia in morning

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Age 5 +
2 Multigreens
1 digest & cleanse
2 Sulfurzyme
1 Agilease
1 super c
1 life 9
mindwise packet
Ningxia Red + drop of endoflex
At meals she does essentialzymes-4

 

 

The Waiting Game

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I’ve got a feeling I’m going into labor in the next few days, maybe even today, so I wanted to document the feels. So many feels.

It is still hard for me to believe that there is a child that looks like Jerry and I in my stomach right now. Like how? Currently this babe is just bumps and kicks and limbs poking at my ribs. Seriously, a miracle.

I’m 3 days late and being such a baby about it. I go back and forth. Some points of the day are all “it’s cool, I’m cool, I’ll enjoy this sleep”. For real when I wake up I’m like, okay only a few more days of this so savor it! Then I’ll have times where I’m all “is this just me now? am I pregnant forever”? I know, I know – relax. Cut me a break! It’s been 10 months! I’m a newbie here and swore I was going early. FYI: don’t ever assume that. Big mistake. YUGE mistake.

I think it’s because I have time to feel all the feels over and over and over again. Every night I go to bed and I assume I’ll wake up to painful contractions. Is it sick I’m like excited for them? LOL, Meg. Nah. When it doesn’t happen, the feeeeeels come in. Jerry’s so good about it, and for the most part I will be until my evil twin pokes her head and is like YO LET’S GO.

I’m nervous, I’m excited, I can’t wait to meet you, I hope I like you, I hope you like me. Are you going to like Jerry more than me like Joe does? Life will change forever, I’ll need to find a new routine and change spikes my anxiety, do I have anxiety right now? Oh Christ last thing I need is my anxiety right now. Is this all normal? What is taking so long? Maybe I’ll never dilate enough?

These are the thoughts that consume me on the reg. Jerry and I are so ready but are we? Loling at this brain right now. I’m sure these thoughts are normal and if not, oh well – here they are.

The truth is, I am so unbelievably grateful for this journey. I thank God every day that my body was able to do this. To make this miracle that is going to be half Jerry and half me. Life is going to change for sure but it is for the better and we are so ready for this. I am ready at least. Poor Jerry looks like he’s seen a ghost every time I joke and tell him “THIS IS IT! IT’S THE BIG ONE”!! It makes me laugh because in those moments I know he cares just as much as I do  and guys don’t always show that. He’s going to kill the dad game.

Now let’s get this show on the road, homie. I want to kiss your face.

My Oily Labor Plan

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Okay, October 3rd is quickly approaching and I am putting together my “labor bag” complete with a go-pro for Jerry to wear, comfy pjs, a hat or a bow for babe, depending on what gender this kid is, and of course my oils.


Packing//

Okay so I picked many a moms brains and I narrowed it down to the below.

You:
Oils/diffuser
Labor playlist
Chapstick and lavender face spray
Crappy flops for shower
Pillow and blanket
Cardigan
Your own towel
Snacks – mints to keep your mouth moist during labor
Shampoo, condition, lotion, etc.
Hair ties and headbands
Pajamas
Cotton t-shirt dress/nightgown
Sports bra for your sore boobies
Going home outfit (leggings and hoodie)
Comfy robe, socks and slippers
Extra long phone charger
Eye mask!
Wine for a victory cheers (and wine opener)
Water bottle with lid
Bowl (for a cool cloth during labor)

Partner:
Oils
Go-pro (for him to wear)
Pillows and blanket
Ipad for entertainment
Snacks
Mints so their breath doesn’t stink when they’re cheering you on

Baby:
Blanket
Going home outfit

Also – TAKE EVERYTHING FROM THE HOSPITAL

 


 

Lav & Peace+Calming//

Apply a few drops on your belly to help calm you and baby down. You can diffuse Peace + Calming or apply directly to your chest. I have my oil and roller form of P+C I’ll be bringing with me.

Use this combo if you are dealing with restless leg or if you simply can’t get comfy enough to snooze.

This routine not only calms you on the way to the hospital, it can even HALT early labor.

Alsooooooooo, these are to be used on baby when the little nugget is fussy as all hell.

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Encouraging Labor//

Jasmine

This million dollar bottle is a freaking miracle. Once labor begins, apply this as a perfume or simply drop into hands and inhale. The smell will keep you calm and happy. It smells like a dream.

[ I have been wearing it as a perfume all week in hopes of labor about a week early ]

Jasmine has antidepressant and antibacterial properties. It is also known to be a sexual stimulant.

Already a YL member? You can use your reward points to grab this oil. It’s a bit pricey so treat yourself. SO worth it.

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Diffusing During Labor//

Okay so check with your hospital to see if you are allowed to diffuse in your room. I am delivering at Lankenau and have yet to check but you bet your ass I am bringing my Orb diffuser and hoping for the best. This little guy is small but powerful. If you don’t have it yet, add it to your ER because you are truly missing out. I currently use it in my car.

Anywho, here is your diffuser recipe to bump during labor …

(4 drops of each)
🌱 Lavender
🌱 Frankincense
🌱 Ylang Ylang
🌱 Roman Chamomile

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Labor Roller//

Mix the following oils with carrier oil in a roller for when labor starts. Massage into the your inner ankles, on little toes, little fingers, lower back, and abdomen. These oils will help regulate and keep you focused during the most amazing job you’ll ever have.

🌱 Helichrysum- 4 drops
🌱 Fennel – 4 drops
🌱 Peppermint – 2 drops
🌱 Ylang Ylang – 6 drops
🌱 Clary Sage – 3 drops

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Frankincense//

In my research I have found that this guy is a key player during labor. I mean I am obsessed with Frank anyway. This is my yoga oil. Centers and calms. I often drop frank into the palms of my hands and inhale deeply, then I rub it all over my face for wrinkle prevention.

So when you are going into labor, if you remember, one drop of frank around your vaginal opening. Your babe is going to come out zen AF.

I also recommend placing a drop on your newborns forehead to welcome he/she into the world.

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Valor//

Apply four to six drops on wrists, chests, and back (or bottom of feet). You’ll want to love on valor during transitional labor and pushing. This is no shocker to me as we all use valor to calm our nerves, anxiety and halt panic attacks.

**If you are feeling super anxious, directly inhale valor, breathing long and heavy, in and out. I don’t recommend diffusing it because it knocks my ass out at night for bed and I don’t want to feel sleepy when I’m supposed to be pushing.

 


 

Strength + Focus//

If you are pregnant – grab these now!

🌱 Brain Power: Apply two drops on neck and throat

🌱 En-R-Gee: Hate the smell of this oil so I am applying to the bottom of my feet. If you don’t mind it, apply to wrists and back of neck

🌱 Ylang Ylang: Apply to hands and feet to advance labor. Keeps your blood pressure from spiking through the roof. I friggin love this oil.

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Cool Down, Mom//

So from what I hear the pushing is going to make me cry, sweat, puke, and more and I cannot wait. LOL

I have these dry face masks from amazon I am going to use as neck and face cloths to cool me down during labor. Bring a bowl with you so your partner (give them something to do) can add cold water to it along with these masks.

This is what you want to add to your dry face masks.

(10 drops of each)
🌱 Jasmine – there it is again! Love you, Jas.
🌱 Roman Cham
🌱 Geranium
🌱 Lavender – I am using 20 drops of lav. Obsessed.

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The Afterbirth Blend//

Make yourself an afterbirth roller with the following oils and carrier oil to rub on your abdomen after birth. This will help expel placenta and tone the uterus. Who doesn’t want that?

Each of these oils are super uplifting too. You’ll feel amazing.

(10 drops each)
🌱 Geranium
🌱 Lavender
🌱 Jasmine

 


 

The Bon Voyage Kit//

This miracle bag of goods takes care of about 90% of my needs at the hospital. Check out everything it includes.

Amazing for travel too! I’ll use this no matter where I travel now. Add it right to your ER!

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Immunity//

So I’m bringing this babe into the world right smack dab in the middle of flu season.

Thieves. Bring the oil, the spray, the antibacterial gel, the roller for you.

Don’t feel like a bitch when your aunt comes in and tries to kiss the brand new baby. Tell her to give it a little due to flu season. I’m sure she will understand!

Having the spray on hand is such an easy way to keep everyone on their toes as soon as they walk in the door.

 

 


 

Other//

🌱 Claraderm: I’ve been spraying on my lady parts since week 36 to prevent tearing during labor. This is also used after labor to help your lady parts recover.

🌱 Linen Spray: I want to make myself as comfortable as possible and there’s nothing that scream my bed more than lavender sheets and pillows.

🌱 Tender Tush: This is what I have been using on my stomach and bum to prevent stretch marks where my body is stretching the most. I’ve grown to love the way this deeply hydrates my skin and I now use it all over.

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Good luck, Mom! YOU GOT THIS.

Pregnancy + Oils

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YL is HUGE in prenatal care. I have been so, so thankful for my oils to help support my body while it’s working hard to create a child. There’s a lot out there when it comes to what is and isn’t recommended during pregnancy. You are the keeper of your body so you should do what makes you feel comfortable and create your own regimen. This is mine. I make my decisions based on science backed articles discussing Young Living oils specifically and only. We all know that essential oils vary greatly between companies, so please, please please do not use oils you got from amazon, the grocery store or the mall, it really wouldn’t be applicable to the quality of oils we get from Young Living and not even remotely as safe.

Progessence Plus: Okay, I love this. Grabbed this to use for hormone support especially for us trying to get pregnant. This is to be use as you are trying to conceive and throughout your first trimester as the combination of high estrogen and progesterone levels suppress further ovulation during pregnancy, (preventing miscarriage). Progesterone is a female hormone important for the regulation of ovulation and menstruation. If a pregnancy occurs, progesterone is produced in the placenta, and levels remain elevated throughout the pregnancy. The  Progesterone also encourages the growth of milk-producing glands in the breast during pregnancy. Use through first trimester may increase your nausea, headaches and moodiness but it is well worth it to have that support.

Lemon, Digize + Gentle Baby (Heartburn): Dilute Gentle baby and rub along your neck. Dilute Lemon on your breastbone.

Lavender, Peace + Calming II, Frankincense: Diffuse, rub, inhale. Drop of lavender on your wrists and collarbone. Drop of any of the oils above on the bottoms of your feet an hour before bed.

Spearmint and Aromaease (nausea): For those blessed with first trimester nausea, rub a few drops over your liver, sniff it, diffuse it. Ningxia and Super B were my game changers when it came to nausea.

Claraderm Spray: To soothe your vajeen area, sorry if TMI but 15 lbs of baby pressing on your parts does not feel good! This stuff also helps prepare your lady parts for birth, strengthening your downstairs to prevent tearing. Start spraying at 33 weeks a few times a day.

Clary Sage: Have this on deck for around your due date. This helps regulate contractions naturally. If you are late, this is a natural way to get the baby moving along. Diffuse during labor!

Body Butter: I made this for myself and my best gal through her pregnancy. Shae butter, cocoa butter, jojoba, frank, lav, and gentle baby to prevent cellulite and to soothe your baby all at the same time. All of these oils are great for your babe so rub away every single night.

NINGXIA. Cannot say enough about drinking Ningxia every damn day. Packed with nutrients and antioxidants to give you natural energy. Personally, I am not completely done drinking coffee, but I had to cut down my intake. Ningxia really helped me make it through while I was nauseous. SO good for you and the baby.

White Angelica + Valor: Emotions. Hormones. A lot of it during pregnancy and White Angelica keeps me so grounded. Diffused for sleep or during a bath or whenever!

Mineral Essence: drops in your tea at night. Crucial for our bodies in this time. Has a yucky taste but I played with it and found its best with hot tea at night.

Peppermint (headaches + nausea): This one is on the “use cautiously” during pregnancy list but I am so thankful for it! When an oil is on this list, it’s important to look at WHY it is there. Peppermint, when rubbed on the belly *can* flip the baby. Okay, so I’m not rubbing a bottle of peppermint on my belly every night, because, well why would I do that? When my hormone headache occurs, I rub pep on my temples and neck and instant relief!

Slique Bar (Tropical Berry Crunch): You might not be able to eat most things or any things EXCEPT for carbs. I was able to get these bars down, I actually looked forward to eating them. Your sweet tooth will be in full force so the little bit of chocolate in this really does the trick.

Einkorn Granola: Another snack you might be able to get down that is actually beneficial for you and your baby boo’s health. Add to some organic granola or munch on it alone! Me and my husband cannot get enough of this stuff.

Seedlings Line: Start stocking up now! Honestly knowing all of the chemicals in baby products (lotions, etc.) I won’t use anything but YL products on my kids. Super affordable, all last forever and can be diluted to last even beyond that.

Sheerlume: This is for the dark spots, also known as Melasma, that you tend to get on your face during pregnancy. This stuff is WILD. Works almost instantly.

Prenatal Supplements

VitaFusion Prenatal Gummies: Amazon! I get them shipped monthly and they’re cheap as dirt. Satisfies my sweet tooth craving as well. Conventional prenatals such as these don’t take into account that you are an individual and have different needs. This is where YL comes in. UPDATE: Trimester 3 and I am so over taking these.

Super B: You are going to be extremely fatigued so these are amazing support for drowsiness and nausea. Unfortunately, B vitamins are not stored in the body and they must be replenished daily. For pregnancy, you should insist on folate vs folic acid in your prenatal wellness regimen for the absolute best your babe can get and this supplement has just that.

Super Cal: Contains all of the calcium and minerals your baby needs to develop their teensy bones and teeth. How friggin cute. This supplement is amazing for the integrity and structure of your bones and teeth as well!

Super C:  All the vitamin C! Our immune systems are suppressed during pregnancy and I love having this supplement to keep me above the wellness line, free from the nasty headcold. You aren’t able to take antibiotics when you are sick so Super C it up!

Inner Defense: This is my everyday immunity supplement because you really can’t take much when you are pregnant so basically I am making my immune system a brick house. Now many do not take this every single day but I definitely am during this pregnancy. I mean let’s face it, I probably will forever.

Multigreens: You and your babe need your daily source of greens in this bioactive sea vegetable energy source for vitality. The combination of bee pollen and essential oil blend helps to increase assimilation of the nutrients with an excellent choline source for energy production. Some people dump 2-3 of these capsules in their morning smoothie.

Life 9: Pregnancy = irregular BM’s.Take this guy at night!Life 9 is a proprietary, high-potency probiotic that combines 17 billion live cultures from nine beneficial bacteria strains. You see, there are microbes in the lower intestinal tract that help us digest food, fight harmful bacteria, and regulate the immune system. But sometimes an imbalance of microbes occurs, leading to running to the bathroom… if you get my drift … and other health problems.

Olive Essentials: Heart health and overall well being. Each capsule of Olive Essentials has as much hydroxytyrosol as a liter of extra virgin olive oil, delivering a concentrated amount of this invaluable compound.

Illumineyes: So what they don’t tell you is that pregnancy leaves you blind. This capsule supports your eyes and skin with the powerful ingredients featuring lutein and zeaxanthin. Yhis proprietary formula helps reduce eye strain, protects eyes from damaging blue light, and maintains vibrant skin. IlluminEyes can also help support your eye health in the long-term—vitamins A and C both have properties that may help reduce eye health deterioration commonly related to age.

ImmuPro: Idk about you but I am doing whatever I can to avoid any illness going around. Seriously, carrying a child is enough effort in itself. These chewy tablets not only keep you above the wellness line, they’re BOMB for sleep. Take these at night because they deliver melatonin which encourages restful sleep by promoting the body’s natural sleep rhythm.

 

The Receiving End of Addiction

  I feel terrible for those who suffer from addiction. I think it is such a terribly sad and painful thing to go through and my heart breaks for those who have to walk that road every single day. I wish addiction wasn’t a thing. My heart also breaks for people like me as well. […]

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I feel terrible for those who suffer from addiction. I think it is such a terribly sad and painful thing to go through and my heart breaks for those who have to walk that road every single day. I wish addiction wasn’t a thing.

My heart also breaks for people like me as well. Those who have to walk a road without a brother, sister, mom, dad, cousin, best friend, etc. I could go on and on because everyone is touched by addiction in some way no matter how close to home it is. I will say that the closer to home it is, the more it hurts. The addict might be somewhere far away, still managing to cause you panic, fear and anxiety or the addict could be in your very own home just not present because of the substance abuse. No matter where he/she is, you will still think about them every single day. Worry about them on the reg. The worst part is, you are the one feeling everything. The addict is numb. The addict doesn’t give a fuck because the only thing that consumes their mind is themselves. You know it isn’t who they really are which makes you sad, lonely, and helpless. Not being able to sleep because you are not sure where the addict is ruins your whole next day (sometimes week). You’ll probably find yourself driving around town to locate the addict and make sure he/she is still alive. Haven’t received a text back in days … is he/she dead? Are they alone somewhere? Is it my fault he/she relapsed?

This to me is where the inner conflict comes in. You want to grab them and punch them in the face but you know this isn’t really them. “Do you know what you are doing to me???!” This is not your dad. This is not your brother. Your mom would never do this if she was sober. How can we abandon someone we love? When is enough, enough? How many chances can I give before I throw in the towel and cut this person off? I honestly do not know the answers. I really wish I did but I don’t think there are any. I attend Al-Anon often which helps me out a ton. I also go to therapy. It helps me to realize that there really isn’t a right or wrong way to handle the addict and the terrible sleepless nights, the tears, the pain and anxiety that come along with it. I wanted to scream when I learned that. My mind is so black and white/matter of fact that I really wanted someone to tell me exactly how to handle this. I wanted someone to tell me it is okay to not answer this persons phone call. There are times I find myself irritated that I even have to go to Al-Anon or therapy because of this person. The truth is, everyone has their own ways of handling this nightmare.

Through all of these tangled emotions that come along with addiction, please don’t forget yourself.

While we want to give all that we can we have to leave some for ourselves. You have to protect yourself. I am currently pregnant making some pretty tough decisions that are good for me and my baby. Becoming a mom has changed my whole way of thinking and I think it has hardened me a bit to the bullshit life (and people) brings. Life is short and I think my standards have heightened. If something is causing me anxiety/depression it has to go. No matter who/what it is. Again, these decisions are not easy but I make them to protect myself and I don’t think there is anything wrong with that. I wish so badly that things were different but they aren’t and life isn’t perfect. I have given a lot. So, so much. I feel like it’s time to give back to me. This is how I feel today and I might not feel this way tomorrow or even next year but right now I am going with it.

2nd Trimester: It really is all it’s cracked up to be.

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What a breath of fresh air. Holy friggin shit. Dare I say I like being pregnant? [JK, that was my hormones]

That is, if your nausea and fatigue symptoms have passed. Condolences if they haven’t. I said it before and I will say it again, you deserve an award. It’s true hell.

Now that my energy is back I’m sure Jerry wants me dead because I am in nesting mode, updating and repainting every room in the house to prepare. In my mind, I’ll be immobile in my third trimester and after birth I’ll be a slave to my newborn. Why not barrel down the hatches now?

First child pregnancy is amazing and boring all at the same time. My sleep schedule is impeccable. Well rested. No toddler to chase around. Self-care is happening on the reg. But on the other hand, it gets quite boring for that same exact reason. Before pregnancy, life was social. Very, very social. While I enjoy this chapter of my life, I’m uhmm limited.

God forbid you say pregnancy isn’t really your thing, people have strokes. Back it up Nancy, nobody said I wasn’t grateful. I’m beyond blessed and very aware of it. Just a tad bored. Plus, summer is around the corner and who doesn’t want a nice spritzer on the beach? [WARNING: I am saying what many people think, so if you’re offended please stop reading and I apologize, I am currently just as sensitive as you are. I get it.]

Here’s where it gets tricky. Now that people know you are pregnant, the comments are just…

At the same time you are in mom mode so your brain is all alert and sensitive and weird. If you try to explain to someone why you’re a tad bored of pregnancy from your point of view people try to find remedies for you – which is totally nice and normal – but you don’t want to hear it. Trying to explain to someone who is on their 5th beer that my outlet options are kind of limited is frustrating. Have another glass Nancy, I’ll be over here petting my stomach trying to stay awake while Kathy tells me the same story for the third time. *forced smile*

“What do you mean? Enjoy this time! Go to the gym!” Oh honey, I go to the gym and pamper myself when I’m not pregnant so buzz off. “You have to find a way to have fun without alcohol.” Ok Nance, you try going to a 30th birthday party where everyone is lit and you’re sober. “You’re not going to find out the gender?? You’re nuts!! Why would you not??” My own moms like, “well you know how you get.” Me? Mom, I’m perfect. Please.

Again, it’s not wrong of anyone to have these comments, I used to make them myself! I still do! People are truly, genuinely nice and trying to relate. However, you feel how you feel and it’s so much cooler when you find the person who’s like, “God bless ya hunny, it’s going to be a longgggg summer with that big ass belly and no cocktails.” My eyes light up. I’m like, “Giiiirrrllll let me tell youuuu about it. It’s been a long winter! Pull up a chair.”

Do what makes you happy! Don’t want to sit through a happy hour? Don’t! You know yourself way more than anyone else and now is not the time to do things you don’t feel like doing. Not the girl who can still hang pregnant? Who tf cares? I’m not. I yawn and want to put a face mask on and rub my stomach. Don’t care.

Also, you can totally have a glass of wine here and there. Weddings tend to be tiresome so have a glass of red and have it proud! Drink your 12 oz of coffee your allotted to (fking brutal – I do 6oz in the am and 6 I the afternoon), eat your cooked sushi. Do friggin you. Now a day’s society makes you think you can’t even fart without your kid coming out with 4 eyes. Just relax. An uptight momma means an uptight baby. I am so blessed to have the doctors I do at the McConnell division. They’re so down to earth. “I mean yeah avoid seafood like swordfish but I mean have you ever even had swordfish? Exactly.”

I’m sure I’ll be singing a different tune once the little babe arrives. I really can’t wait for that. To raise a little human is truly the greatest, most powerful gift you can ever give. These posts are just how I feel now. Writing them for myself and for those who feel the same. May you never stifle your voices. Your emotions are just as important as the glowing pregnant girl who wants 10 kids and can’t wait to carry them all. Power to her too! You kill it bb.