To All the Moms in Quarantine

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Whether you have 1 kid or 5, stay at home or work, I see you, I am you, I’m flailing as well. 

I had JJ in October and we were cooped up inside all winter while I tried to figure out how to be a mom, battle post partum anxiety, and deal with ground hogs day – every, single, day. 

I didn’t go back to my full time job but I have my own business going on where I can work from home and have a flexible schedule. Seriously blessed to be able to have this opportunity and watch my son grow but have you ever tried to WFH with an infant let alone a kid of any age? It’s impossible. So I decide to get a sitter at least 2-3 times a week while I would go to Starbucks and work. This was simply amazing. Just what I needed, I felt back to myself again. 

Then this shit happened. I think I got to enjoy ooh maybe 2 months of working outside of the home again (not even). Basically my maternity leave has been extended til further notice without any help from anyone, ever and nowhere to go except for a walk around the block – IF the weather permits which for the most part it has not. I feel that “is this my life now” feeling creeping back and it sucks. Now my husband is home working in what was once my office so it’s like a double kick because we are in each others spaces and he can’t even lend a hand because his show must go on. Most days I envy him having his own space and freedom to work. Though I love the flexibility of my job I am literally entertaining a 7 month old all day while trying to work a job that though flexible, requires a ton of communication and hard work. It’s an around the clock gig and I am trying to squeeze it into the 45 minutes naps I am getting. Legit bottle in one hand, laptop or phone in the other.

The word is draining. Some days I am fine, some days I wake up like “again?”. Many days I get to my breaking point. Then the mom guilt comes in. That’s the best. After trying to keep your shit together you lose it and you’re like damn I didn’t mean to do that. The hardest part is that there is no relief. No places to go, no people to help you out. It truly takes a village to raise children and right now us moms are working with a few lone soldiers who are freaking tired. I know we are all dealing with this in different way but I figured if anyone is on my page they might find some  solace in this piece. 

Today was rough. And it’s 3pm … Tomorrow could be better, it could very well not be. C’est la vie. 

New Mom, Who Dis

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We brought JJ home and it was like hysterical that someone left us in charge of a tiny human when we literally didn’t even know how to burp a child before this. However, we were ready to do whatever it took and were already so over the moon in love with this little babe. We had no clue what we were in for. Not a clue. Nobody can prepare you for parenthood. Even when they warn you about the ups and downs you’re like “yeah whatever I got this.”

Narrator: she, in fact, did not have this.

The first few weeks seem like cake because newborns are so lethargic so JJ was chill af. There wasn’t much fussing just sleep (for long stretches), eat and poop. I remember Jerry and I were thinking we nailed it already. This is great! Love this. We have an easy kid! The nighttime is a little rough, whatever, we can do this! Then by week three of no sleep and JJ starting to come to a bit (and fuss like nobody’s business, self-diagnosed colic by his mom) we were like okay we’re dead meat. Walking zombies. Somebody send him back! Totally kidding, but this definitely crossed my mind a time or two.

I think the first thing I had to come to terms with was that my life was totally and completely changed. I no longer mattered. That to do list I lived by never got done – at least in the time frame it used to. That morning cup of coffee was always room temp. Even your meals are up in the air. I couldn’t just run out real quick to do something, I had to now factor in baby J and his 400 lb car seat. The thought of leaving my house with him gave me anxiety because I didn’t know wtf I was doing and he was like a timebomb to me. Every cry I was like WOAH woah woahhhh. Loling, it’s so true. The nighttime legit scared us because Jerry and I slept like the dead and now we were up at all hours of the night trying to figure out why this tiny human was crying. I would actually look at people and be jealous that they were going to have a full nights sleep. I remember calling my mom crying like “Is this my life now? I’m just a slave to this baby boy?” It’s actually hard to remember now but I most definitely had a case of the baby blues.

Here I am now at 6 weeks and here to tell you that things get easier. I am figuring out JJ and he is figuring me out as well. Don’t get me wrong, it was instant love at first sight with him but that first smile really is something else. It’s like okay here we go, I’m doing something right (with tears streaming down my face). There is truly nothing like that first smile. Good Lord. The bond we have is like none other. I idolize him and he idolizes me back. Now I know what his cries mean, when he wants to lay and play and when he’s tired. We have a routine now and omg was I craving a routine. Like I said, we are getting to know each other more and more each day and it’s an incredible type of love I’ll never be able to explain. Me and Jerry just stare at him like “can you believe we made him?” There’s good days and bad days. Like right now I’m half awake because JJ’s room turned into a night club last night, but such is life.

Throughout this journey I think the most important thing that I have learned is that nobody knows what they are doing. Don’t compare yourself or your baby to others during this time – or any time for that matter. There is no right or wrong way to do this. I wanted nail this gig right off the bat. Like, good joke, nobody nails this and everyone cries – and now I get it. You are learning so much about yourself during this time, it’s insane. I am like 1000x more sensitive, more compassionate, and more aware. My anxiety spiked naturally. Mental breakdowns are necessary and so is self-care. Don’t forget about you. Go get your nails done or a massage and don’t feel guilty about it! It truly takes a village so if someone is offering to watch the baby, take the offer. Take it always.

Anyway, I’m not here to tell you how to act because, again, I have no idea what I am doing but I do know one thing and that is that this is the best job I have ever had in my whole entire life and I wouldn’t trade it for the world. It is absolutely trying and I’m sure every single stage has it’s challenges but the joy this little man brings me is so worth it. So, for the moms out there who are having themselves a day, I hear you, I see you and I am you. We gotta stick together in this crazy, wild journey because we all we got.

Using the PSK on Little People

So I have a 3 week old and I am over the moon. I’ve been oiling for quite some time now so I used oils throughout my pregnancy and I honestly don’t know how people do life without them. I had an easy pregnancy and an even easier delivery.

Here I am, a new mom, oiling my little mans up. So far it has been amazing. Each oil in the kit provides support for me and baby JJ. Let me tell ya how. Start by checking the dilution chart below. If I’m being honest, I barely dilute, I just make sure I use only 1 drop on the little homie.

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Diffuser: Add this to the babes room and get yourself one too! I have a diffuser in every room but I’m extra.

Peace + Calming: This is JJ’s favoriteeeee calming oil. He responds to this one the most. I’ll diffuse this at night in his room and after a nightime bath I apply to his forehead. During diaper changes I’ll apply some to the bottom of his feet.

Valor: Being a new mom is scary. Valor relieves my anxiety. I diffuse this at night and apply to neck and wrists during the day. I cannot live iwthout this oil. Sometime’s I will add this to JJ’s nighttime diffuser.

Frank: This is applied to both mine and JJ’s forehead for focus and centering. Sometimes we just need a reset – most especially when baby boy is crying and it takes me forever to figure out why. Oiy.

Panaway: After birth my back was off. I hear this is common. Panaway for all of the aches and pains.

Stress Away: I mean, need a say more? Mom, bring this in the shower with you – when you can actually take one – and drop away. Rub all over your neck. This scent is unreal so I will diffuse during the day to keep baby J (and myself) from freaking out.

Lavender: Seriously what is lavender not good for? For JJ, I’ll let him sniff this when he is all out of pocket. For me, the uses are endless but that is for another post.

Raven: Sniffles and coughs? Raven baby. Dilute and apply to chest and bridge of nose for the little one should they be snotty and agitated. This oil opens you right up. I always say it’s similar to vicks vapor rub in both smell and use.

Peppermint: I’ve had post partum hormonal headaches. I am not sure if it is my hormones or lack of sleep that I got going on here but pep on the temples is immediate relief. I don’t use this on baby love.

Citrus Fresh: For JJ’s hiccups! This dude sucks down his bottle in such an urgent manner he legit gets hiccups after every feeding that keep him from falling back asleep. Letting him sniff this helps the hiccups subside.

Thieves: Immunity! During the day I will open a window and diffuse this in JJ’s room – if the weather is nice enough for the window to be open – to get the germs out. Obviously nobody wants to try and be a mom when you have a friggin head cold so I use this on myself daily. Rub on your neck and wrists every single morning to stay above the wellness line. Diffuse with other oils for an amazinggggggg fall scent.

Lemon: I add this to my water during the day to curb my cravings. Trying to get my body back to where it was before pregnancy.

Digize: When JJ is constipated I will rub this on his back. Also, after birth mom usually has a terrible time going to the bathroom. I add this to my tea and rub on my stomach to get me moving along.

Ningxia Packets: I take one of these every single day. SO MANY BENEFITS, one including a natural boost of energy. What mom doesn’t need that, am I right?

Thieves Hand Sanitizer and Spray: This is in JJ’s diaper bag so where ever we go I can make sure unwanted germs stay the F away. I favor the spray because it is so quick and easy to use on yourself and all surfaces such as shopping carts and coffee shop tables.

Thieves Cleaning packet: I use this to clean my whole house. JJ could literally lick the table and I won’t have to worry about toxins and chemicals in his mouth that he would’ve gotten from the wood cleaner, windex or bleach.

 

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YL for newborns +

Newborn

A little bit of an opened life 9 capsule sprinkled in her milk once a day

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13 month old

2 oz of Ningxia
1 life 9
1/2 tsp of Sulfurzyme powder

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Age 2-9
Multigreens: 2 a dayMightyVites: 2 a day
MightyZymes: 1 a day
Omegagize: 2 a day
Super C: 1/2 a tablet
Mineral Essence & Mindwise: I just puts some in their Ningxia in the morning.

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Age 3-4
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Super C -1 or 2
Multi greens in smoothies
Life 9 in yogurt
Ningxia in morning

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Age 5 +
2 Multigreens
1 digest & cleanse
2 Sulfurzyme
1 Agilease
1 super c
1 life 9
mindwise packet
Ningxia Red + drop of endoflex
At meals she does essentialzymes-4

 

The Waiting Game

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I’ve got a feeling I’m going into labor in the next few days, maybe even today, so I wanted to document the feels. So many feels.

It is still hard for me to believe that there is a child that looks like Jerry and I in my stomach right now. Like how? Currently this babe is just bumps and kicks and limbs poking at my ribs. Seriously, a miracle.

I’m 3 days late and being such a baby about it. I go back and forth. Some points of the day are all “it’s cool, I’m cool, I’ll enjoy this sleep”. For real when I wake up I’m like, okay only a few more days of this so savor it! Then I’ll have times where I’m all “is this just me now? am I pregnant forever”? I know, I know – relax. Cut me a break! It’s been 10 months! I’m a newbie here and swore I was going early. FYI: don’t ever assume that. Big mistake. YUGE mistake.

I think it’s because I have time to feel all the feels over and over and over again. Every night I go to bed and I assume I’ll wake up to painful contractions. Is it sick I’m like excited for them? LOL, Meg. Nah. When it doesn’t happen, the feeeeeels come in. Jerry’s so good about it, and for the most part I will be until my evil twin pokes her head and is like YO LET’S GO.

I’m nervous, I’m excited, I can’t wait to meet you, I hope I like you, I hope you like me. Are you going to like Jerry more than me like Joe does? Life will change forever, I’ll need to find a new routine and change spikes my anxiety, do I have anxiety right now? Oh Christ last thing I need is my anxiety right now. Is this all normal? What is taking so long? Maybe I’ll never dilate enough?

These are the thoughts that consume me on the reg. Jerry and I are so ready but are we? Loling at this brain right now. I’m sure these thoughts are normal and if not, oh well – here they are.

The truth is, I am so unbelievably grateful for this journey. I thank God every day that my body was able to do this. To make this miracle that is going to be half Jerry and half me. Life is going to change for sure but it is for the better and we are so ready for this. I am ready at least. Poor Jerry looks like he’s seen a ghost every time I joke and tell him “THIS IS IT! IT’S THE BIG ONE”!! It makes me laugh because in those moments I know he cares just as much as I do  and guys don’t always show that. He’s going to kill the dad game.

Now let’s get this show on the road, homie. I want to kiss your face.

My Oily Labor Plan

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Going on baby number two so this whole article has been updated! My God do you learn a lot after becoming a mom. SHEESH.

I had such an amazing experience (though definitely wild and at times painful) during labor with jj.
Thank you Jesus for YL. Having those tools- It totally put me in such a mindset, I felt powerful af. YL has SO many tools to make your labor unforgettable, manageable and amazing.

Packing//

I overpacked HUGE time with JJ. This time I am taking on the minimalist approach so I can fit all of the hospital supplies I will be taking home with me in there.

You:
◖ Oils/diffuser
◖ Labor playlist
◖ Chapstick and lavender face spray
◖ Crappy flops for shower
◖ Blanket
◖ Your own towel
◖ Snacks – mints to keep your mouth moist during labor
◖ Shampoo, condition, lotion, etc.
◖ Hair ties and headbands
◖ Cotton t-shirt dress/nightgown
◖ Sports bra for your sore boobies
◖ ipad.   

◖ going home outfit

◖ Comfy socks
◖ Extra long phone charger

◖ Wine for a victory cheers (and wine opener)
◖ Water bottle with lid

Baby going home outfit.

Also – TAKE EVERYTHING FROM THE HOSPITAL. They want you to. If you’re formula feeding take all of those bottles too.


Lav & Peace+Calming//

Apply a few drops on your belly to help calm you and baby down. You can diffuse Peace + Calming or apply directly to your chest. I have my oil and roller form of P+C I’ll be bringing with me.

Use this combo if you are dealing with restless leg or if you simply can’t get comfy enough to snooze.

This routine not only calms you on the way to the hospital, it can even slow down early labor.

Alsooooooooo, these are to be used on baby when the little nugget is fussy as all hell.

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Encouraging Labor//

Jasmine

This million dollar bottle is a freaking miracle. Once labor begins, apply this as a perfume or simply drop into hands and inhale. The smell will keep you calm and happy. It smells like a dream.

[ I have been wearing it as a perfume all week in hopes of labor about a week early ]

Jasmine has antidepressant and antibacterial properties. It is also known to be a sexual stimulant.

Already a YL member? You can use your reward points to grab this oil. It’s a bit pricey so treat yourself. SO worth it.

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Diffusing During Labor//

Okay so check with your hospital to see if you are allowed to diffuse in your room. I am delivering at Lankenau and have yet to check but you bet your ass I am bringing my Orb diffuser and hoping for the best. This little guy is small but powerful. If you don’t have it yet, add it to your ER because you are truly missing out. I currently use it in my car.

Anywho, here is your diffuser recipe to bump during labor …

(4 drops of each)
🌱 Lavender
🌱 Frankincense
🌱 Ylang Ylang
🌱 Roman Chamomile

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Labor Roller//

Mix the following oils with carrier oil in a roller for when labor starts. Massage into the your inner ankles, on little toes, little fingers, lower back, and abdomen. These oils will help regulate and keep you focused during the most amazing job you’ll ever have.

🌱 Helichrysum- 4 drops
🌱 Fennel – 4 drops
🌱 Peppermint – 2 drops
🌱 Ylang Ylang – 6 drops
🌱 Clary Sage – 3 drops

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Frankincense//

In my research I have found that this guy is a key player during labor. I mean I am obsessed with Frank anyway. This is my yoga oil. Centers and calms. I often drop frank into the palms of my hands and inhale deeply, then I rub it all over my face for wrinkle prevention.

So when you are going into labor, if you remember, one drop of frank around your vaginal opening. Your babe is going to come out zen AF.

I also recommend placing a drop on your newborns forehead to welcome he/she into the world.

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Valor//

Apply four to six drops on wrists, chests, and back (or bottom of feet). You’ll want to love on valor during transitional labor and pushing. This is no shocker to me as we all use valor to calm our nerves, anxiety and halt panic attacks.

**If you are feeling super anxious, directly inhale valor, breathing long and heavy, in and out. I don’t recommend diffusing it because it knocks my ass out at night for bed and I don’t want to feel sleepy when I’m supposed to be pushing.


Strength + Focus//

If you are pregnant – grab these now!

🌱 Brain Power: Apply two drops on neck and throat

🌱 En-R-Gee: Hate the smell of this oil so I am applying to the bottom of my feet. If you don’t mind it, apply to wrists and back of neck

🌱 Ylang Ylang: Apply to hands and feet to advance labor. Keeps your blood pressure from spiking through the roof. I friggin love this oil.

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Cool Down, Mom//

So from what I hear the pushing is going to make me cry, sweat, puke, and more and I cannot wait. LOL

I have these dry face masks from amazon I am going to use as neck and face cloths to cool me down during labor. Bring a bowl with you so your partner (give them something to do) can add cold water to it along with these masks.

This is what you want to add to your dry face masks.

(10 drops of each)
🌱 Jasmine – there it is again! Love you, Jas.
🌱 Roman Cham
🌱 Geranium
🌱 Lavender – I am using 20 drops of lav. Obsessed.

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The Afterbirth Blend//

Make yourself an afterbirth roller with the following oils and carrier oil to rub on your abdomen after birth. This will help expel placenta and tone the uterus. Who doesn’t want that?

Each of these oils are super uplifting too. You’ll feel amazing.

(10 drops each)
🌱 Geranium
🌱 Lavender
🌱 Jasmine


The Bon Voyage Kit//

This miracle bag of goods takes care of about 90% of my needs at the hospital. Check out everything it includes.

Amazing for travel too! I’ll use this no matter where I travel now. Add it right to your ER!

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pack your friggin ningxia//
I adore this supplement. If you aren’t drinking it you’re insane, please read on.
Can you eat 100 oranges, 814 blueberries, 22 medium carrots, 10.85 lbs spinach, 59 broccoli florets, 73 med. strawberries, and 93 apples? No? Then just drink 1 packet of Ningxia. I’m not kidding you, it’s equivalent to all of that. ⁣
Ningxia Red has helped my family through digestive stuff, pregnancy, my spacey-ness, when we’ve been under the weather, when I crave sweets… so many things.
It has helped in keeping me regular and my levels balanced throughout pregnancies.
Anyway, have some packets ready for you to drink after labor to recover and give your body allll the things.

Clary Sage//
You are going to want to bring this bottle – SUCH a key player in all the things for labor.
Basically if you want to speed up your labor
To increase and strengthen contractions//
Clary Sage applied around the inside of the ankles and internally as needed, eg.
1 drop every half an hour
Dilation, if delayed//
Clary Sage, use orally 1 drop every 15 minutes or 6 drops and see what happens
over the next couple hours, then repeat if necessary.
Blood Pressure
If too low or too high during pregnancy or birthing//
AromaLife Blend, I drop on the heart and inner wrist
Clary Sage lowers if too high!
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Prep those bathroom baskets //
So you are going to take a tonnnnn from the hospital so grab a basket for each bathroom in your house. You can keep your mesh undies, tucks pads, perinatal bottle etc. in them. Easyyy button!!!
 make padsicles!
Link below has a ton of stuff from Amazon you can grab.

Immunity//

So I’m bringing this babe into the world right smack dab in the middle of flu season.

Thieves. Bring the oil, the spray, the antibacterial gel, the roller for you.

Don’t feel like a bitch when your aunt comes in and tries to kiss the brand new baby. Tell her to give it a little due to flu season. I’m sure she will understand!

Having the spray on hand is such an easy way to keep everyone on their toes as soon as they walk in the door.

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3rd trimester tea//
If you are reading this you are most likely prepping for labor. get you some 3rd trimester tea. this stuff is formulated with organic herbs traditionally used to to nurture third trimester bodies and to prepare for labor.
There's a Pregnancy Tea For That! - Thrifty Nifty Mommy

Other//

🌱 Claraderm: I’ve been spraying on my lady parts since week 33 to prevent tearing during labor. This is also used after labor to help your lady parts recover.

🌱 Linen Spray: I want to make myself as comfortable as possible and there’s nothing that scream my bed more than lavender sheets and pillows.

🌱 Tender Tush: This is what I have been using on my stomach and bum to prevent stretch marks where my body is stretching the most. I’ve grown to love the way this deeply hydrates my skin and I now use it all over.

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Good luck, Mom! YOU GOT THIS.