New Mom, Who Dis

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We brought JJ home and it was like hysterical that someone left us in charge of a tiny human when we literally didn’t even know how to burp a child before this. However, we were ready to do whatever it took and were already so over the moon in love with this little babe. We had no clue what we were in for. Not a clue. Nobody can prepare you for parenthood. Even when they warn you about the ups and downs you’re like “yeah whatever I got this.”

Narrator: she, in fact, did not have this.

The first few weeks seem like cake because newborns are so lethargic so JJ was chill af. There wasn’t much fussing just sleep (for long stretches), eat and poop. I remember Jerry and I were thinking we nailed it already. This is great! Love this. We have an easy kid! The nighttime is a little rough, whatever, we can do this! Then by week three of no sleep and JJ starting to come to a bit (and fuss like nobody’s business, self-diagnosed colic by his mom) we were like okay we’re dead meat. Walking zombies. Somebody send him back! Totally kidding, but this definitely crossed my mind a time or two.

I think the first thing I had to come to terms with was that my life was totally and completely changed. I no longer mattered. That to do list I lived by never got done – at least in the time frame it used to. That morning cup of coffee was always room temp. Even your meals are up in the air. I couldn’t just run out real quick to do something, I had to now factor in baby J and his 400 lb car seat. The thought of leaving my house with him gave me anxiety because I didn’t know wtf I was doing and he was like a timebomb to me. Every cry I was like WOAH woah woahhhh. Loling, it’s so true. The nighttime legit scared us because Jerry and I slept like the dead and now we were up at all hours of the night trying to figure out why this tiny human was crying. I would actually look at people and be jealous that they were going to have a full nights sleep. I remember calling my mom crying like “Is this my life now? I’m just a slave to this baby boy?” It’s actually hard to remember now but I most definitely had a case of the baby blues.

Here I am now at 6 weeks and here to tell you that things get easier. I am figuring out JJ and he is figuring me out as well. Don’t get me wrong, it was instant love at first sight with him but that first smile really is something else. It’s like okay here we go, I’m doing something right (with tears streaming down my face). There is truly nothing like that first smile. Good Lord. The bond we have is like none other. I idolize him and he idolizes me back. Now I know what his cries mean, when he wants to lay and play and when he’s tired. We have a routine now and omg was I craving a routine. Like I said, we are getting to know each other more and more each day and it’s an incredible type of love I’ll never be able to explain. Me and Jerry just stare at him like “can you believe we made him?” There’s good days and bad days. Like right now I’m half awake because JJ’s room turned into a night club last night, but such is life.

Throughout this journey I think the most important thing that I have learned is that nobody knows what they are doing. Don’t compare yourself or your baby to others during this time – or any time for that matter. There is no right or wrong way to do this. I wanted nail this gig right off the bat. Like, good joke, nobody nails this and everyone cries – and now I get it. You are learning so much about yourself during this time, it’s insane. I am like 1000x more sensitive, more compassionate, and more aware. My anxiety spiked naturally. Mental breakdowns are necessary and so is self-care. Don’t forget about you. Go get your nails done or a massage and don’t feel guilty about it! It truly takes a village so if someone is offering to watch the baby, take the offer. Take it always.

Anyway, I’m not here to tell you how to act because, again, I have no idea what I am doing but I do know one thing and that is that this is the best job I have ever had in my whole entire life and I wouldn’t trade it for the world. It is absolutely trying and I’m sure every single stage has it’s challenges but the joy this little man brings me is so worth it. So, for the moms out there who are having themselves a day, I hear you, I see you and I am you. We gotta stick together in this crazy, wild journey because we all we got.

Author: oilswinefine

I thoroughly enjoy vino, my friends, family, and my essential oils. Here you will find my random, scattered thoughts and obsessions on one website. Hopefully it is useful to you. Even if it isn’t, thanks for tuning in.

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